Understanding the approaches behind the work.
A short, curated set of references on sex addiction treatment, couples therapy methods, and where to find support between sessions.
The organizations behind my training
If you want to verify credentials or read more about the methods used in sessions, start here.
What is a CSAT certification for sex addiction?
An overview of the Certified Sex Addiction Therapist credential — the training requirements, supervised hours, and clinical framework it covers.
iitap.comInternational Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals
IITAP is the certifying body for CSAT clinicians and a research hub for trauma-informed addiction treatment.
iitap.comWhy choose the Gottman Method for couples counseling?
Four decades of relationship research, translated into a structured approach for conflict repair, trust-building, and lasting intimacy.
gottman.comWhat is Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT)?
An attachment-based model that works underneath the argument — addressing the fear driving the conflict rather than the content of it.
iceeft.comQuestions people ask before reaching out
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Is porn addiction a real clinical concern?
The language varies between clinicians — some use "compulsive sexual behavior," others "sex addiction" — but the pattern being described is consistent: behavior that continues despite real consequences, escalates over time, and resists willpower alone. What matters clinically isn't the label, it's whether the behavior is costing you things you care about.
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Why does working with a male therapist matter to some clients?
It isn't the right fit for everyone, and it doesn't need to be. But many men working through sexual compulsivity or shame describe less to explain and less to brace for when the person across from them shares that frame of reference. If that's you, it's a legitimate reason to choose a therapist.
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Should my partner and I be in the same therapy?
Often both — individual work for the person in recovery, individual support for the betrayed partner, and couples sessions once there's enough stability for them to be productive rather than re-injuring. We'll talk through the right sequence for your situation. See how sessions are structured.
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What does "evidence-based" actually mean here?
It means the approaches used have been studied in clinical research and shown to produce measurable outcomes — not that they work identically for everyone. The Gottman Method and EFT both have substantial research bases in couples work; CSAT training draws on established addiction and trauma literature.
Peer support and recovery communities
Therapy and peer support do different jobs. Many clients find the combination more durable than either on its own.
Sex Addicts Anonymous
A twelve-step fellowship with in-person and online meetings, including men-only groups. Free to attend.
saa-recovery.org →COSA
Support for partners and family members affected by someone else's compulsive sexual behavior.
cosa-recovery.org →NAMI
National Alliance on Mental Illness — education, local support groups, and a free helpline for mental health concerns generally.
nami.org →Books clients often find useful
Reading isn't a substitute for the work, but it can make the first conversation easier to have.
- Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
- Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
- The Body Keeps the Score
- Your Sexually Addicted Spouse
Reading only takes you so far.
If something here landed, that's usually a sign it's worth talking through with someone. Reach out whenever you're ready.